Interacting with Your Premature Baby in the NICU

Who can visit the NICU?

As a parent, you can most likely stay with your baby for much of the day. Talk with your baby’s nurse about when you can visit. Your baby’s brothers, sisters, and grandparents may not be allowed in the NICU. Or they may be able to make only short visits. This is to protect your baby from infection and from too much excitement.

Holding and touching your baby

Talking or singing quietly to your baby can help him or her be calm.

Very early preemies have skin that is thin and fragile. So they may not be able to cope well with being touched. But as your baby grows and develops, touch can be pleasant for you and your baby. Depending on your baby’s gestational age, NICU staff may suggest:

• Containment. This means putting your hands and arms on either side of your baby while the baby lies in bed. Preemies like this because it’s much like what they felt in the uterus.

• Light touch. Stroking your baby may be too much stimulation. A steady touch is best.

• Skin-to-skin contact (kangaroo care). As soon as your baby is ready, skin-to-skin contact is an important step. This is your chance to hold and cuddle your baby. Adjust your shirt so you can hold your baby against your bare skin. Cover your baby with the shirt or a blanket to stay warm. Kangaroo care can be relaxing for you and your baby. It may also help your baby recover better or more quickly from some of the health problems preemies have.

• Non-nutritive (comfort) breastfeeding. Babies in the NICU have tubes that are in their mouth and taped to their face. This can make them very sensitive to having anything near or in their mouth, or even to food or drinks (oral aversion). Holding your baby and having them suckle, even without getting any milk, can help your baby overcome oral aversion. It will also help your baby develop the ability to feed at the breast. And it will help you make more milk.

• Your presence at the bedside. Your baby knows your voice and scent, so being at the bedside is important. Your voice can help your baby be calm so they can grow and get better. Once your baby is feeling better, your nurse will show you how you can place your hands on your infant to help your baby feel secure. As your baby feels better, the nurse will let you know when you can help with your baby's care.

Creating a soothing environment

Preemies can be very sensitive to touch, sound, bright light, and other forms of stimulation. To keep your baby as comfortable as possible:

• Let your baby sleep when they need to.

• Keep noise and bright lights to a minimum.

• Try not to hit things on the incubator, talk in a loud voice, or slam doors.

• If lights seem too bright, ask a nurse if you can drape a blanket over the incubator.

Other ways you can help

• Personalize your baby’s environment. But first check with a nurse about what is and isn’t allowed and what’s safe for your baby.

• When your baby is awake, talk or sing in a quiet voice.

• Help with your baby’s care as advised by your baby’s nurse. This may include diapering, breast or bottle feeding, or taking your baby’s temperature. If your baby is very sick, NICU staff may need to take on more of these tasks. But there is always something you can do.

• Work with NICU staff to develop a plan of care for your baby.

• Share your sense of how your baby is doing with NICU staff. As you get to know your baby, you may notice subtle changes that nobody else does.

• Take care of yourself, too. If you're feeling sick, it's important that you tell the NICU staff. Don't visit if they feel your baby could catch a cold or other infections from you. As hard as this is, it's important that your baby stay as healthy as possible. Ask the NICU staff or your healthcare provider about other ways to protect your baby, such as making sure you have had the Tdap vaccine and a seasonal flu shot.

How preemies express themselves

Preemies move less and make less noise than term babies. Their facial expressions are more subtle. Look for these signs and try to get to know how your baby shows different moods.

Signs of contentment or pleasure:

• Relaxed arms and legs

• Alertness

• Cooing

• Looking around

Signs of stress:

• Tremors, twitches

• Holding arms or legs out stiff

• Putting a hand up with fingers spread out like a stop sign

• Arching the back

• Gasping, fussing, or crying

• Lack of response (shutting down)

• Color changes

• Gagging

• Hiccups